For Parents & Families

The Parent AI Guide

Conversation starters by age, a tool-by-tool reference, an app-screening framework, device settings, and a family technology agreement. Everything here is designed to open conversations, not start interrogations.

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AI Tools Your Kids Are Probably Using

Tool	What It Does	What Parents Should Know
ChatGPT	Answers questions, writes text, helps with homework	Can produce incorrect information confidently. Free version stores conversations. Kids may use it to write entire assignments.
Claude	Similar to ChatGPT: answers, writes, analyzes documents	Generally more cautious but still makes mistakes. Conversations may be stored.
Snapchat My AI	AI chatbot built into Snapchat, chats like a friend	Feels personal, which can lead kids to overshare. Collects conversation data. On by default.
Google Gemini	Google's assistant, built into Search, Docs, Android	Integrated into tools kids already use for school. May surface inaccurate information.
YouTube algorithm	AI deciding what plays next based on watch history	Designed to maximize watch time, not educational value. Can lead down rabbit holes.
Roblox / Fortnite	AI chat, recommendations, and generated content in games	In-game chat can expose kids to strangers. In-app purchases use AI targeting.
TikTok algorithm	AI that learns what your child likes and shows more	Extremely effective at holding attention. Surfaces age-inappropriate content. Extensive data collection.
AI image generators	Create realistic images from text	Can create fake images of real people (deepfakes). Kids may encounter or create inappropriate content.
Grammarly	AI writing assistant, checks grammar, rewrites	Helpful, but can do too much rewriting. Over-use can prevent independent writing skills.
Voice assistants	Siri, Alexa, Google Assistant	Always listening for wake words. Young children may ask them questions they'd otherwise ask a person.

One rule of thumb: If your child is using a tool you have never seen, ask them to show it to you. Not as an inspection, as curiosity. "Show me how this works" opens more doors than "What are you doing on that?"

The 3-Question App Check

Before you say yes to any new app, game, or AI tool, run it through these three questions. They will still work a year from now when the next new thing shows up.

Question	Good sign	Watch out
1. Who is it talking to, and what is it collecting? Check what the app asks for during setup.	Works without personal details. Usernames allowed. Permissions match what the app actually needs.	Requires real name, age, and location to start. Wants camera, mic, and contacts access the core feature does not need.
2. Who can contact my child, and can strangers see them? Look at the social features.	Chat limited to approved contacts or off entirely. Profiles private by default. No location sharing.	Anyone can message your child. Public profiles by default. Location or activity status shared.
3. What happens when they cannot stop? How does the app keep your child engaged?	Built-in time reminders or natural stopping points. No streak punishments. Notifications easy to turn off.	Streaks, autoplay, push notifications that pull them back, purchases designed to pressure spending.

Conversation Starters by Age

15 cards

Pick one. Find a low-pressure moment. Listen more than you talk.

What does your tablet or game do to help you? What does it do that feels weird?

Ages 5-10

Follow-up: Listen without correcting. Ask: What would you do if it said something you did not understand?

Did you know some games have a robot brain that watches what you like and shows you more of it?

Ages 5-10

Follow-up: How does that make you feel? Do you think it always picks good things?

If a game or app asked you for your real name or where you live, what would you do?

Ages 5-10

Follow-up: That is a great answer. Let us make a rule together about that.

What is the coolest thing you learned from a screen this week? What is something a screen could never teach you?

Ages 5-10

Follow-up: Let them compare. This builds critical thinking without lecturing.

Want to try something fun? Let us ask the computer a question together and see if the answer is right.

Ages 5-10

Follow-up: Look it up together. Show them that the computer can be wrong.

Have you ever used ChatGPT or anything like it for school? I am just curious, not checking up on you.

Ages 11-13

Follow-up: If yes: Walk me through how you used it. I want to understand.

Your phone is really good at figuring out what to show you next. Have you noticed that? How do you think it decides?

Ages 11-13

Follow-up: Do you think it ever shows you things that are not true just because you might click on them?

If you saw a photo or video online that looked real but felt off, how would you figure out if it was fake?

Ages 11-13

Follow-up: Deepfakes are getting really good. Want me to show you how to spot them?

Some of your friends probably use AI for homework. What do you think about that?

Ages 11-13

Follow-up: Let them talk. Then: Where do you think the line is between getting help and not learning?

Is there anything online that has made you uncomfortable lately? You will not get in trouble for telling me.

Ages 11-13

Follow-up: If they share something, thank them. Do not react with alarm.

How are your teachers handling AI in class? Are any of them using it or talking about it?

Ages 14-18

Follow-up: What do you think the rules should be? Where does AI help learning and where does it replace it?

Do you think colleges and employers will care about how you use AI? How are you thinking about that?

Ages 14-18

Follow-up: Discuss the difference between using AI as a tool versus using it as a shortcut.

Have you seen any AI-generated content that fooled people? How did you figure out it was not real?

Ages 14-18

Follow-up: What would you do if someone used AI to create something fake about you or a friend?

What data do you think the apps on your phone are collecting about you right now?

Ages 14-18

Follow-up: Is that trade-off worth it to you? What would make you delete an app?

I read that some companies are using AI to screen job and college applications now. What do you think about that?

Ages 14-18

Follow-up: Use this to open a bigger conversation about AI's role in their future.

Device Settings Cheat Sheet

Menu paths current as of 2026 and may move with updates. If a setting has moved, search the device's Settings app for the feature name. Tonight's challenge: pick ONE setting and turn it on before bed.

iPhone / iPad	Screen Time: Settings > Screen Time > Turn On. Set a passcode your child does not know. App Limits: Screen Time > App Limits > Add Limit. Content: Screen Time > Content and Privacy Restrictions > Limit Adult Websites. Downloads: Restrictions > iTunes and App Store Purchases > Installing Apps: Don't Allow. Communication Safety: Screen Time > Communication Safety > On.
Android (Family Link)	Family Link: Install the Google Family Link app and link your child's account; it manages everything remotely. Screen time: Family Link > Daily limit. App approvals: Controls > Google Play > Require approval for all content. Filters: Controls > Chrome > Try to block explicit sites; SafeSearch on. YouTube: YouTube Kids for younger children; Restricted Mode for teens.
Chromebook	Supervision: Settings > People > Parental controls > Set up, linked to Family Link. Safe Browsing: Privacy and Security > Enhanced protection. Guest Mode: People > turn OFF Guest browsing so controls can't be bypassed. SafeSearch: Lock it with your own Google account. School Chromebooks may have separate school-managed filters; ask the teacher.

Our Family Technology Agreement

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Paste into a doc, customize together, sign it, revisit every few months.

Family Technology Agreement (Full Text)

Shared expectations before problems arise, not rules after something goes wrong.

OUR FAMILY TECHNOLOGY AGREEMENT Family member(s): ______________________ Date: ______________ AI AND HOMEWORK [ ] I will tell my parent or teacher when I use AI (ChatGPT, Claude, Copilot, etc.) to help with schoolwork. [ ] I understand that using AI to do my work for me is not the same as learning. I will use it as a helper, not a replacement. [ ] I will always read, check, and edit anything AI generates before I submit it. [ ] Custom rule: ______________________________________________ APPS, GAMES, AND DOWNLOADS [ ] I will ask before downloading a new app or game. [ ] I will not create accounts or sign up for services without a parent knowing. [ ] If a game or app asks for personal information (name, age, location, school), I will stop and ask. [ ] Custom rule: ______________________________________________ PRIVACY AND PERSONAL INFORMATION [ ] I will not share my full name, school name, address, phone number, or photos with AI tools or unknown accounts. [ ] I understand that anything I type into an AI tool may be stored, read by other people, or used to train the system. [ ] I will not upload personal photos to AI image tools or face-changing apps. [ ] Custom rule: ______________________________________________ SCREEN TIME AND DEVICE USE [ ] My device-free times are: ___________________________________ [ ] My device-free zones are: ___________________________________ [ ] My total daily screen time limit is: ________________________ [ ] Custom rule: ______________________________________________ WHEN SOMETHING GOES WRONG [ ] If I see something online that scares me, confuses me, or makes me uncomfortable, I will talk to a parent. I will not get in trouble for telling the truth. [ ] If someone online asks me to keep a secret from my parents, I will tell a parent right away. [ ] If I make a mistake with technology, we will talk about it and figure it out together. SIGNATURES Parent: ______________________ Date: ______________ Child: ______________________ Date: ______________

This guide came from a live parent AI safety session.

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